This is probably one of the most talked about topics on blog sites, among men and women, women and women, and men and men. Everyone has their opinion on giving head; how to do it, when to do it, with whom to do it, the topics are endless. I thought I would approach the subject from a different angle, I hate being like everyone else.
This is not an instructional piece as the title would lead you to believe, more so, it’s a dissemination of opinionated information… Whose opinion, well mine of course!
If you’re settling down expecting to get my view on giving head in the sexual manner, you might be disappointed, but linger around to read a bit more, it may still be of interest to you.
Last minute warning: some degree of intelligence is required to be able to get the full effect of what's written. No offense to those on the slow side.
There is more than one meaning to giving head. The term usually brings thoughts of oral sex, be it a man and a woman, a man and a man, or a woman and a woman, something is getting licked or sucked in a sexual manner. I like to think of giving head in a more literal sense, it’s nice to actually get something from a cognitive perspective. Don’t confuse giving head with playing head games, they are two separate things. I’ve done both and had both done to me, believe me, they are NOT the same.
Giving good head involves knowing the receiver well enough to provide a stimulating environment. Nothing is worse on a date than stale conversation. I’d rather the restaurant serve me stale bread than my date bore me with stale conversation. Giving good head should arouse the cognitive senses, awaken the Medulla Oblongata; afterall, this is the part of the brain that controls automatic functions including heartbeat, breathing, etc.
If you’re thinking I’m crazy and this has nothing to do with actually giving head, ponder me this...Cunnilingus is perhaps one of the most enjoyed forms of sex for women. As I look at the word, another word jumps out at me, its quite easy to form the word cunning, a word with several meanings, one of which is “executed with or exhibiting ingenuity”, another being “delicately pleasing”. Imagine being able to perform cunnilingus on your mate without ever taking off her clothes, its not a hard task, but it will require some brain power; user your head first, mouth second, and when using your mouth, let it be to speak eloquently yet subtly erotic to her; it’s a clever form of teasing that will take you far.
Find your woman’s mental clitoris and massage it gently. Let your conversation and companionship stroke her cerebellum, the area controlling her balance, posture, movement, and muscle coordination; If you can get this spot stroked just right she’ll find herself quickly mesmerized by you. If you’ve managed while giving mental head to reach a point where you can kiss her, don’t just use your lips, involve your hands. Gently hold her head as your are kissing her, applying the lightest of pressure to each side of the head, just above the ears; not only are your kissing her, but now you are caressing the temporal lobe of the cerebrum, the area that contains centers of hearing and memory. She will hear you, even though you aren’t speaking and your kiss will remain a pleasant memory, that is if you know how to kiss!
Ok, I’ve given away far more than I had planned… remember, this is only my view of giving head, and my opinions on how to do so. If you don’t like them, come up with your own. If you don’t think you can come up with your own, that should tell you something. If you think you can, do. No excuses. If you still don’t like my views, find some you do like; Life is too short to be miserable. If you do like my views, I commend your good taste!
If your goal is to get some sexual head later, you might want to focus on giving some good mental head first.
Part II coming soon, Mental Stimulation….. nah, let’s leave well enough alone :-)
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Sex and the Single Stud
Ok, we’ve talked about dating; assuming things are going well for you on the dating scene, let’s jump to the fun stuff – SEX! Now we all know that even though its cool checking out new places, trying new restaurants, and doing all the regular dating things, our ultimate goal is to have some earth shaking sex… Oh yea, and fall in love, LOL!
Although sex may be on our minds the minute we leave out the door heading to meet our woman, it’s not a good idea to let that be the driver for your evening. Sex is best when it occurs spontaneously; when both parties have reached the decision that its time to move to the next level. To me, pre-planned sex is never as good as that impromptu (spur of the moment for you slow folks) heated connection.
Just because we want it to occur naturally, and not be some planned item on an agenda, does not mean that one shouldn’t be prepared; this goes for both Studs and Femmes. If you are a Stud that prides herself on being a master of the strap, by all means, please have the damn thing handy! There is nothing worse than having bragged to a woman about your strap skills and then NOT having a strap! Now I’m not suggesting that you walk around 24/7 wearing your strap, that could be quite uncomfortable, but I am suggesting that you find creative ways to have what you need handy. There are plenty of ways to do this; there are tons of unisex bags that can carry all your necessary items and are also pretty fashionable. I tend to favor the Nike drawstring bags that are easily carried on the back and come in multiple colors. Not only can I take all my essential sexual items, but also any other day-to-day things I might need. Its closes tightly and prevents wandering eyes from seeing the contents.
Femmes, I’ll keep it short and simple. Keep the pubic area nicely trimmed, choose your underwear as if you were doing a photo shoot for Victoria’s Secret, and a little perfume goes a long way! A lot of perfume RUNS people away! Hands and feet should not be neglected. I hate seeing a beautiful woman and then checking out her feet only to discover they look like she has been driving a car in through Bedrock in the Flinstones!
On the issue of safe sex, Ladies, just because we are sleeping with other ladies does not mean we are excused from having to practice safe sex. It is a myth that HIV/AIDS and other diseases are not easily spread between women. Even if the statistics were to show that less than 1% of lesbians contracted HIV/AIDS via sex with another woman, why would you risk it???? Would you be willing to be that less than 1%?? Not me! I am not an advocate for volunteering and I damn sure would not volunteer to die!
If you’re using a strap, buy some condoms. It’s just that simple. Walk in the store and BUY SOME CONDOMS! Don’t let them sit in your dresser drawer until the latex sticks to the foil, use the damn things! If you’ve never used one before, Practice, Practice, Practice. It’s not attractive to be fumbling around when the big moment arrives. Yes, I know there is more to Lesbian sex than using a strap, but I’m not giving a semester long safe sex class, just writing a blog entry, go out and educate yourselves on safe sex as it pertains to the Lesbian community, familiarize yourself with the things available to assist in having safe sex.
Do Me, Do You – The give and take. Ok, I’m gonna get some nasty stares from some Studs on this, but WTF, when has that ever stopped me! Femmes, I love you, love making love to you, but I will NOT give you my all in the bed and have you give me nothing in return! Unless this is some pre-arranged agreement and money has exchanged hands, you will be reciprocating! (as a side note, I do not sell sex!). Just because I am a Stud and identify with more masculine tendencies does not mean that I have issues with you touching me, going down on me, etc. Hell, you can do me first! I know that my opinion is not shared by all Studs so my suggestion if that you know your mate and have an understanding of what’s expected.
After Sex – Well, I’m sure there are a million things that could take place after sex; cuddling, snuggling, more sex, breakfast, quiet talk, blah blah blah… If you happen to be at my house after sex please do not expect me to make you breakfast, I am a terrible cook; feel free however to cook for me! If you have been invited to stay the night, yes, I expect you to shower! I don’t care that I was just between your legs; I do not wish to be smelling your ass while I sleep or when I wake up. Same thing goes for dental hygiene, brush before you lay head to pillow. Yes I know that’s my pussy on your breath, doesn’t change the fact that I don’t want to smell it when I wake up in the morning (even though I’m sure it smells sweet! LOL). If you haven’t been invited to stay the night, please do not be offended when I ask you to call me when you get home… this is your queue that its time for you to roll out, I’m sleepy and ready for some shut eye. If you miss the queue, you will be soon after hearing my favorite phrase, “Kick Rocks”!
I think that’s enough to get us all started now go forth and F*@k!!! LOL
Have a great weekend! I’ll be traveling this weekend but will be checking in on your blogs to see what you guys are up to; I enjoy reading each of your pages!
Although sex may be on our minds the minute we leave out the door heading to meet our woman, it’s not a good idea to let that be the driver for your evening. Sex is best when it occurs spontaneously; when both parties have reached the decision that its time to move to the next level. To me, pre-planned sex is never as good as that impromptu (spur of the moment for you slow folks) heated connection.
Just because we want it to occur naturally, and not be some planned item on an agenda, does not mean that one shouldn’t be prepared; this goes for both Studs and Femmes. If you are a Stud that prides herself on being a master of the strap, by all means, please have the damn thing handy! There is nothing worse than having bragged to a woman about your strap skills and then NOT having a strap! Now I’m not suggesting that you walk around 24/7 wearing your strap, that could be quite uncomfortable, but I am suggesting that you find creative ways to have what you need handy. There are plenty of ways to do this; there are tons of unisex bags that can carry all your necessary items and are also pretty fashionable. I tend to favor the Nike drawstring bags that are easily carried on the back and come in multiple colors. Not only can I take all my essential sexual items, but also any other day-to-day things I might need. Its closes tightly and prevents wandering eyes from seeing the contents.
Femmes, I’ll keep it short and simple. Keep the pubic area nicely trimmed, choose your underwear as if you were doing a photo shoot for Victoria’s Secret, and a little perfume goes a long way! A lot of perfume RUNS people away! Hands and feet should not be neglected. I hate seeing a beautiful woman and then checking out her feet only to discover they look like she has been driving a car in through Bedrock in the Flinstones!
On the issue of safe sex, Ladies, just because we are sleeping with other ladies does not mean we are excused from having to practice safe sex. It is a myth that HIV/AIDS and other diseases are not easily spread between women. Even if the statistics were to show that less than 1% of lesbians contracted HIV/AIDS via sex with another woman, why would you risk it???? Would you be willing to be that less than 1%?? Not me! I am not an advocate for volunteering and I damn sure would not volunteer to die!
If you’re using a strap, buy some condoms. It’s just that simple. Walk in the store and BUY SOME CONDOMS! Don’t let them sit in your dresser drawer until the latex sticks to the foil, use the damn things! If you’ve never used one before, Practice, Practice, Practice. It’s not attractive to be fumbling around when the big moment arrives. Yes, I know there is more to Lesbian sex than using a strap, but I’m not giving a semester long safe sex class, just writing a blog entry, go out and educate yourselves on safe sex as it pertains to the Lesbian community, familiarize yourself with the things available to assist in having safe sex.
Do Me, Do You – The give and take. Ok, I’m gonna get some nasty stares from some Studs on this, but WTF, when has that ever stopped me! Femmes, I love you, love making love to you, but I will NOT give you my all in the bed and have you give me nothing in return! Unless this is some pre-arranged agreement and money has exchanged hands, you will be reciprocating! (as a side note, I do not sell sex!). Just because I am a Stud and identify with more masculine tendencies does not mean that I have issues with you touching me, going down on me, etc. Hell, you can do me first! I know that my opinion is not shared by all Studs so my suggestion if that you know your mate and have an understanding of what’s expected.
After Sex – Well, I’m sure there are a million things that could take place after sex; cuddling, snuggling, more sex, breakfast, quiet talk, blah blah blah… If you happen to be at my house after sex please do not expect me to make you breakfast, I am a terrible cook; feel free however to cook for me! If you have been invited to stay the night, yes, I expect you to shower! I don’t care that I was just between your legs; I do not wish to be smelling your ass while I sleep or when I wake up. Same thing goes for dental hygiene, brush before you lay head to pillow. Yes I know that’s my pussy on your breath, doesn’t change the fact that I don’t want to smell it when I wake up in the morning (even though I’m sure it smells sweet! LOL). If you haven’t been invited to stay the night, please do not be offended when I ask you to call me when you get home… this is your queue that its time for you to roll out, I’m sleepy and ready for some shut eye. If you miss the queue, you will be soon after hearing my favorite phrase, “Kick Rocks”!
I think that’s enough to get us all started now go forth and F*@k!!! LOL
Have a great weekend! I’ll be traveling this weekend but will be checking in on your blogs to see what you guys are up to; I enjoy reading each of your pages!
Saturday, February 7, 2009
The Overnight Bag
Ladies... Let me begin by saying I love you all, short or tall, big and small (but not too butch!). Now that we have that out of the way, lets get down to a troubling matter... The Overnight bag!
I am in favor of both Femmes and Studs keeping a bag packed with the essentials for an impromptu overnight stay or weekend getaway. What I am NOT in favor of is those of you (and I can only speak about Femmes) that keep the damn bag in the trunk of your car and who try to use it with anyone that gives you 15minutes of conversation, a drink and a dance!
Nothing presents itself as a bigger turnoff than a woman with a weeks worth of clothes trying to come home with me and "chill for a while"! In the past when folks new how to get up, brush their teeth and go home, the Overnight bag was not a problem. NOW, the sight of an overnight bag just screams "I have nowhere to be and can just lay over at your place for an extended stay".
Come on ladies, especially my Femmes, tell me whats the deal with the Overnight bag????
I am in favor of both Femmes and Studs keeping a bag packed with the essentials for an impromptu overnight stay or weekend getaway. What I am NOT in favor of is those of you (and I can only speak about Femmes) that keep the damn bag in the trunk of your car and who try to use it with anyone that gives you 15minutes of conversation, a drink and a dance!
Nothing presents itself as a bigger turnoff than a woman with a weeks worth of clothes trying to come home with me and "chill for a while"! In the past when folks new how to get up, brush their teeth and go home, the Overnight bag was not a problem. NOW, the sight of an overnight bag just screams "I have nowhere to be and can just lay over at your place for an extended stay".
Come on ladies, especially my Femmes, tell me whats the deal with the Overnight bag????
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