Dating 101

Ok Studs, get seated and pay attention, I am only going to go over this once. The ladies are complaining that they aren’t being dated properly. For those of you in long-term relationships, your mates are saying the romance is gone. Don’t ask when I spoke to your girl, that’s not important! Back to the issue at hand, dating. I’m sure you’re thinking you are Playa of the century and your game is top notch…. Ummm, that’s not the case. All of us can use some tips on stepping up our game from time to time.

New Relationships –
Depending on the type of women you date, its important to put some time and thought into planning a successful date. I prefer those high maintenance women so it takes me a few days to line everything up just the way I want it. Planning is essential if you want your girl to really feel courted. If anyone ever told you being a Stud or Aggressive Femme was easy, well, let’s just say they lied!
If you’ve been up on your game with the woman you are dating so far, you should have some idea of what interest her, the food she likes, and the places she doesn’t like, etc. Use this information to your benefit. If you know the woman is allergic to shell fish I wouldn’t take her to a seafood restaurant! Restaurant choice is important in making the date successful. If you aren’t well versed in choosing a restaurant, let the internet be your friend. Go to citysearch.com for your city and check out what’s hot on the restaurant scene. Word of advice, make your reservations at least 3 days in advance.
Now that you know where you’re going to eat, let’s talk about the meal itself… Studs, you have GOT to increase your wine knowledge!! Be prepared to suggest various wines depending on what’s ordered for the meal. It’s not cool ordering desert wine with the entrée. As a last resort, when in doubt, ask. Have the waiter make some suggestions for you.

Be prepared to spend between $100 - $150 on a nice restaurant, that’s right, it cost to do the damn thang right! For those of you that are frowning… just send your woman on over, I’ll take her out for a nice meal, of course she’ll probably want to feed me something afterwards and I doubt you would like that so get ya cheap asses in gear! Stop wasting your money on junk and splurge a little on your girl!
Have some options other than the club for after dinner. If you’ve kept the lines of communication open you should know the things that interest her. Most city museums are open late on Friday and Saturday nights. Get some culture, go check out an exhibit. It is not necessary to go to a “gay” spot. We are not segregated from society, branch out and try new things. Pick a live music spot, maybe some jazz. Have some drinks and some conversation. If the weather is nice, take a walk down-town, unless of course you are in the ghetto! I wouldn’t suggest walking around at night in a high crime area.

When the date is over, don’t expect sex, you can HOPE for it, but don’t expect it. What you should expect is to hear that she really had a good time and wants to see you again. Get a couple of these dates under your belt and sex will happen, trust me!

You Married Folks –
Just because you’ve been snuggling up next to her for a while doesn’t mean you can get off your job, your woman still needs to be romanced. If you slip on romancing your woman too long she’ll be calling and dammit I will be FORCED to answer! I’m a civil servant and must help those in need!
How about sending your woman some flowers, hell get off your ass and TAKE your woman some flowers! Surprise her on her lunch hour and take her out for some mid-day romance. Replace “what are we doing this weekend” with “would you like to have dinner with me Friday”. A simple change in words puts a new spin on an old situation. Perhaps she is tired of making love in the same bed she has to change the sheets on every week, why not check into a hotel after dinner and let someone else make the bed in the morning! Spend the whole weekend away from your humble abode. Explore parts of the city that you rarely visit, browse a bookstore together and discuss some literary interests. Find a park bench, sit her down and tell her all the reasons why you fell in love with her and all the reasons why you’ll always love her. Trust me, if you slip on doing these things your view of her will be her backside as she’s leaving your ass!

For My Femmes
If your Stud goes through the trouble of doing all these things, the least you can do is BE ON TIME!!!
Also, if you met you woman at the corner store she more than likely will not venture more than a few blocks FROM the corner store so you probably shouldn’t expect the treatment described above. If you pick a lemon off the lot it probably won’t take you far and will soon break down on you!
Fellas, if you stumbled upon this blog as you were wandering aimlessly around the internet, its cool, the same tips apply to you!

I’m off to plan my weekend…